Let’s talk about making friends in college. It sounds easy in theory—new place, new people, endless opportunities—but in reality, it can feel like a high-stakes social experiment. Whether you’re the life of the party or someone who dreads small talk, making friends without it feeling weird or forced is possible (I promise). So, how do you do it? Let me break it down for you.
1. Join Clubs or Organizations
This one’s a classic for a reason. Getting involved in campus clubs or orgs puts you in direct contact with people who share your interests. And hey, it’s less intimidating to talk to someone when you already have something in common. Whether it’s a hobby, a sport, or even student government, putting yourself out there is the first step. You don’t have to love everyone you meet—but finding “your people” becomes so much easier when you’re involved.
2. Say Yes to Stuff (Even If You’re Nervous)
I get it, new social situations can be nerve-wracking, especially when it feels like everyone already has their crew. But saying yes to things like study groups, dorm mixers, or even grabbing a coffee with a classmate can open doors. The key? Keep it chill—nobody expects you to instantly click with every person you meet. And remember: everyone else is just as nervous as you are.
3. Be Yourself (Cliché But True)
Trying to fit in by being someone you’re not is a recipe for stress. Sure, college is all about trying new things, but you’ll attract the right people by being your authentic self. If you love binge-watching Netflix, say it. If you’re obsessed with podcasts, own it. The right friends will appreciate the real you, quirks and all.
4. Don’t Be Afraid to Make the First Move
Whether it’s starting a conversation in class, complimenting someone’s outfit, or asking if you can sit with them in the dining hall, a little courage goes a long way. Chances are, the other person will be relieved you spoke up first.
5. Know That It’s Okay to Take Your Time
Friendship doesn’t happen overnight. Some of the best friendships take time to grow, so don’t stress if you don’t click with people right away. Keep putting yourself out there, be open, and you’ll eventually find your crew.
Remember, you’re not alone in this! Almost everyone feels the pressure of making friends in college. Just be open to new experiences, and before you know it, you’ll have a group that feels like home.
