Because glow-ups are cute, but emotional repression is not a personality trait.
The Line Between Self-Care and Self-Deception
It starts with a glow-up. You’re sipping iced matcha on a rooftop, wearing your tiniest tank top and your biggest sunglasses. To the outside world? You’re thriving. Healing. Living your best summer life.
But inside? You’re dodging texts from your therapist, emotionally spiraling in Notes app drafts, and posting bikini pics just spicy enough to make him wonder what went wrong.
Let’s be real — are you actually healing, or are you just well-lit and avoiding your feelings?
The “Hot Girl Healing” Delusion
Instagram will have you thinking healing means:
- Buying a candle and never lighting it
- Wearing a claw clip to your 3rd situationship in 2 weeks
- Blocking your ex and then immediately checking his Spotify activity
But healing isn’t an aesthetic. It’s not journaling in calligraphy and wearing linen pants by the beach (though, obsessed). It’s messy. It’s raw. It’s logging off. It’s sobbing, spiraling, and slowly getting it together in between.
Avoidance Looks Cute in the Sun
Let’s call it what it is: emotional evasion wrapped in a tan line.
If your idea of “healing” is running from your problems in a matching workout set — I see you. I am you. But baby, eventually that beach towel becomes a hiding place, not a safe space.
Healing isn’t avoiding the past, it’s learning to sit with it. Tan if you must — but don’t confuse glow with growth.
Healing Checklist That Isn’t Just Aesthetic
- ☐ Logged off social for at least a day
- ☐ Actually went to therapy, not just talked about it
- ☐ Let yourself cry without needing a “reason”
- ☐ Reflected on patterns instead of blaming everyone else
- ☐ Gave your inner child more than just retail therapy
The Luee Way: Heal Softly, But Seriously
We’re not here to judge your beach selfies or your iced latte era. We love her. But The Luee is here to remind you that you’re allowed to go deeper. That healing can be both main character energy and brutally honest.
Let this summer be the one where you get your tan and your peace. Where you exfoliate your trauma responses and finally block that one person who treats you like an option.
Final Words
Healing isn’t linear. It’s not always cute. But it’s worth it. Keep showing up — with sunscreen, iced coffee, and a whole lot of self-compassion.
Because real glow-ups? They happen on the inside too.
